Are you the type of person that feels indebted when someone does a favor for you? My guess is that you’ve had experiences with others who believe all favors have to be reciprocated so let me tell you…
To hell with them.
I write about this not for myself but for others because I’ve never suffered the attack of these parasites for long. The moment I sense them wanting to charge me for something they offered out of their own free will I stand firmly and tell them, “I’ll pay you this favor but never, ever, ever, contact me again in your entire life. I don’t wish to associate myself with you.” Then they hit me with all the good things they’ve done for me and that I’m being unreasonable and I say, “Stop talking to me. How do I know that you’ll not charge me later telling me that you gave me a therapy session. No, Goodbye!” I’ve never seen anyone with that trait ever since and I’m all the more peaceful for it.
I’ll tell you a deep secret about this disease, one that I’ve been able to assess with my gift of vision, are you ready?
These people have never loved themselves for even one second of their lives.
When you truly love yourself from your very depths and appreciate who you are, you become like a waterfall that cascades and outpours onto everything in its vicinity, never exhausting itself from the river of love. That’s the glow you see in the actual holiest man who gives and gives and still comes home happy. It’s because they love themselves so much that they generate more loving energy for others. I call this radiation.
In order to reach that stage you need to know yourself down to your essence. I don’t mean what you do, I don’t mean who you know or what job you have, I mean who you are deep down. Exist in that center where you don’t think. You need an empty mind because that’s when you’ll act like who you truly are. In essence you don’t need the mind because the mind was made to navigate the world, the mind was made to help you manifest your ideas, the mind was there to help you survive not thrive.
Instead, your essence was just there to exist.
Once you find that center where your essence resides, you’re going to realize that the person you’ve always been, deep down, is who you actually love most. Then the radiation will happen by itself. Don’t focus on an outcome because those who seek admit that they’re missing something. Don’t seek! How can you seek something that you already are?! You can’t find it anywhere because it’s not external, it’s you! Just drop everything and do what you love! Then everything you want, both people and things, will gravitate towards your love and as a byproduct you’ll also reject those who lack self-love because their higher self feels it. They know they can’t offer favors to someone who doesn’t need them.
Also, if they start talking about you in a dark light, be happy. I always share this quote of Franz Kafka to teach the negative. I don’t mean the negative as something evil but the negative as the opposite path of what is considered traditional learning. It goes as follows, “I was ashamed of myself when I realized life was a costume party, and I attended with my real face.”
He was ashamed, when he should’ve been happy! Lice can only be with other lice, rats with rats, insects with insects, worms with worms! And gods…with gods.
These people are going to complain to their bug friends about you saying how horrible you are and imagine that! By getting rid of one you’ll get rid of the others like removing the queen bee and watching the other bees follow. All the people you actually want around you won’t spend their time listening to a rat that talks poorly of someone, they will flock to your love while the people that are unworthy of your presence will flock to the bug. It’s a win-win! One that I hope that the modern Kafka’s will learn in time before they find themselves in the middle of a bug’s nest. And remember, no one is asking you for favors. Instead, pay homage to yourself by sitting in your center. You’ll be doing the world a divine favor.
